Explore Conversations on Midlife, Menopause, Health, Relationships and Reinvention
Identity Crisis Clubhouse — I'm Not Dead Yet is the unfiltered, sometimes-shouty conversation about midlife chaos, identity shifts, hormones, heartbreak, modern dating, long-term drama and the quiet (or not so quiet) question we're all sitting with: "who the hell am I now?"
Welcome to the club nobody planned to join.
You've built a life.
Ticked the boxes.
Held it together.
Smiled through things you probably shouldn't have.
And then — somewhere along the way —
everything shifted.
No perfect answers.
No "lean in." Just real ones.
No life coaches. No pretending we've got it all figured out. Just honest conversations told with humour and the occasional swear word.
No life coaches telling you to "lean in"
No glossy 5-step transformation plan
No pretending we've got it figured out
Where to start.
I'm Not Dead Yet — Welcome to the Clubhouse
The pilot. The point. The reckoning. Why this podcast had to exist, what's actually changed, and the moment I realised midlife wasn't a crisis — it was a wake-up call.
Play EpisodeModern Dating in Your 40s & 50s — Absolutely Feral
Apps, ghosting, men who can't spell, and the bizarre joy of dating again after a long-term relationship. Plus: the line between optimism and delusion.
Play EpisodeLong-Term Relationships & the Quiet Reckoning
What do you do when you wake up next to someone you've grown around but no longer recognise? An honest, messy chat about staying, leaving and everything in between.
Play EpisodeBecause midlife isn't a crisis.
It's a reckoning.
Because you're not alone in feeling it. Whatever it is this week.
Because sometimes you don't need fixing. You just need someone to say it out loud first.
— and that someone might as well be us.
Six things every episode delivers.
Lines from the show (and our DMs).
Come Join
The Club.
No membership required.
No pretending allowed.